Have you ever had a day where you feel as though you are not good enough? You swear you can sense people believe you are not good enough based on the looks they give you or the way they are acting. Sometimes it’s as if the voices never stop telling you how worthless, pathetic, and unimportant you are. Fortunately, and unfortunately, there is a term for this, and many people struggle with this very issue. The very issue I am talking about is shame.
“I am not going to take it anymore!” How many times have you heard that phrase or even have said it? And what does it mean, really? The problem is one of interpretation. That phrase could mean anything from a simple release of tension all the way to a decision to hurt someone.
Recently I met someone who reminded me of my mother. My mom died in 2001 and this year marks the 6th Mother’s Day without her. I still miss her terribly. When my mom died, my best friend told me, “You’re an orphan now.” It didn’t strike me what she meant until I began the grieving process. Then the notion hit me really hard. Living life without your mom is really hard.
It is hard to get through the day without hearing the buzz words “healthcare” or “health insurance” as the nation’s government tries to decide how best to keep the country healthy. The term “pre-existing condition” has been on many people’s lips as the debates unfold. For anyone who already has health concerns, this constant press and attention on the cost of treatment may make it even harder to cope with the daily worries and stress that accompany illness. If you find yourself unduly preoccupied by your or a loved one’s illness, you are not alone.
Imagine you are on vacation at your favorite place. You probably feel rested, calm, happy, and peaceful. What if you could learn how to feel peaceful like that most of the time? Would you be willing to make the necessary changes to accomplish that goal? According to Wikipedia, “Inner peace (or peace of mind) refers to a deliberate state of psychological or spiritual calm despite the potential presence of stressors.” Therefore, to some degree, inner peace is a choice that you can make most of the time.
The purpose of this article is to briefly highlight the importance of forgiveness as part of the counseling process. For many people, learning to forgive may need to come after intensive psychotherapy regarding memories. Forgiveness work may then help to release any remaining negative energy so that the client can learn to function at a healthier level. Holding grievances takes more energy than we realize until we let it go.
By contributing blogger Suzanne Walker.
Would you take a moment and look up the phrase human trafficking on the internet? Don’t be afraid. I promise you the FBI won’t show up at your door and ask any questions.